Sunday, October 22, 2006
epol.apol About a month ago I read an article in Reader's Digest entitled "How Polite Are We?"..The "researchers" did 3 tests to measure politeness. One, was to how a person would hold a door for the person behind him. Second, was how the person would react when he found a person drop all his belongings and lastly how a person would acknowledge the person on a counter once the latter greets him. Well, Filipinos were right on the middle compared to other Asian countries, it was actually disappointing for me i was expecting more from us..
So how do we really meaure politeness? Is it really how to hold or open the door for another person? Is it how we would greet or acknowledge a person?..I think politeness is more than that. Yes, being polite is how we conduct ourselves towards another may it be in person or not (meaning through simple phone conversation)..A simple "thank you" or "good-bye", "hi" or "hello", "thank you" or "welcome" or simple words that would acknowledge the presence or the pending absence of another..We get to meet a lot of people and i mean a lot..From people who does nothing but curse, to people who are so meek and nice that they can do no harm..Or can they? Even the most eccentric looking person can actually be the sweetest and most polite and the direct opposite can actually be the most impolite and arrogant that you can meet..
I always believed that being polite is partly being able to hold your pent-up and irritated feelings toward another..and as much as possible try not to go to their level for you know and believe that you are much better that they think..It may sound "plastic" but i'm talking about let's say a social gathering like if someone is talking or giving a speech you just can't shout or throw eggs..Show some breeding and there are appropriate place for such actions..
Yes, we get to meet people and some can actually be so impolite..and what can be scary is the fact that we assimilate (if you're weak)and acquire their traits..but not actually lose your personality but sort of immitate their actions (at certain moments) to simply be part of the group (without losing your own persona)..no, there is nothing wrong with pakikisama but there has to be limits..oh yes..i've met this person and it is quite scary and i can feel that some of the traits are creeping in me..but it's about removing the bad apples and eating the good ones..(i really love the good apples i make apple pie out of them..harhar). But, you don't actually throw the apples but simple put it aside and learn to accept the rotten apple. Hence, i sort of "immitate" the bad apple and i can feel that the bad side of the apple can actually be good but there are moments that i feel the "bad karma" of the apple turning on me..and i don't feel good. But i always believed that i can't always assimilate myself to what the society is doing. or should I? i know it may sound like a big deal but it's actually a very simple actions that we all do. and i don't want to elaborate anymore..but i have reached a conclusion that politeness is actually subjective.
minsan nakakainis. minsan nakakatuwa. minsan nakakasakit. minsan nakakagulo.minsan nakakabastos. but we have to love and accept the good and bad side of each and everyone. The way God does. For that is life worth living.
next time i'll talk about bananas.
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your approval means to me. your smile, the laughter, the high fives, and most especially you..i miss you the most.
can we bring back the time? the moments we had talking, laughing and sharing some thoughts and opinions.
and just have you beside me. all i get. all we get. all we do is talk. small talk.
i miss you. i'm afraid of you. and be alone with you.
for i am afraid of what i feel. disappointment and frustration.
you have always been there for me. you words and/or lack of it can be hurtful. and i understand.
how i wish, i could feel the same. like before.
when everything felt light. everything was..i miss us.Stupid_Doug sitting... waiting... at 10/22/2006 04:34:00 PM | 0 comments
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